Thank you for sharing your story Jil. I feel the same - that my poor birth mother was wronged as well as me by a society that couldn't countenance an unwed mother. I'm sorry that you never got to know her, that's a big loss to process. I also had wonderful adoptive parents, but the loss also co-exists with that, as you beautifully expressed.
Thank you for reading and commenting Judi. It took a while for me to realise that I could hold both gratitude for my adoptive family and grief for everything I lost.
Thank you for sharing your story Jil. I feel the same - that my poor birth mother was wronged as well as me by a society that couldn't countenance an unwed mother. I'm sorry that you never got to know her, that's a big loss to process. I also had wonderful adoptive parents, but the loss also co-exists with that, as you beautifully expressed.
Thank you for reading and commenting Judi. It took a while for me to realise that I could hold both gratitude for my adoptive family and grief for everything I lost.
Yes, same for me Jil. I held the two quite separately for a long time, thinking it had to be one or the other. Now I see the nuance.